5 Conversations: Choosing Sides

Today is the week two wrap up for the study we are doing on 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Son.  If you are doing the study with us, here is where we converse about the daily study.  Contribute to the conversation anytime by leaving your thoughts in the comment field.  Make sure you check the box for “Notify me of follow-up comments via email” so the conversation isn’t just one-way and you can also respond to comments.  If you have insight into parenting boys but aren’t necessarily doing the study with us, you are also free to join the conversation!

I thought week one was challenging, but week two has really got me thinking.

A few years ago, when my oldest son was still a tot, someone challenged me to pray for him to be a light in darkness rather more than I pray for his protection.

Like any mother, I will not stop praying for my sons’ protection but I am gaining a better understanding of praying for them to overcome and be light in darkness.  This chapter made things a bit clearer to me.

I confess… some of the temptations this world will serve them scare the heck out of me.  I don’t want them to suffer the consequences of the sin that will crouch at their door. I worry every time they are in front of computer screen. When a friend has an iPod touch near them.  Every time they get that glazed look in their eyes from playing video games.

But God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power and love and self-control (or a sound mind). (2 Timothy 1:7)

Which means that if I’m going to teach self-control, I’d better model it by not having such a spirit of fear when it comes to the things my sons’ may face.  I was challenged this week that in these young and formative years, with prayer and God’s leading my job as a mom is to pour Jesus into them so they will see He is bigger than themselves and they will hear His voice and learn to respond to it.  Easier said than done.

However, we did get to practice a little “Stop, Listen and Think” this week.  I gave my son some money to run into Jamba Juice to pick up an order for us.  He said while he was waiting, he thought about buying one of their new lip balms.  Before making a bad decision, he stopped, thought about it (he skipped the prayer) and realized it wasn’t the right thing to do.

Baby steps. 

There is always a way out of temptation.

I’ll take baby steps in the right direction any day knowing there will always be a few steps back along the way.

So I’m encouraged…

Pray for self-control more than I pray against temptation.  We will all be tempted until Jesus returns.

Pray that Jesus will become their master rather than something created for this world.

Pray for power, love, a sound mind and self-control.

How have you been able to overcome temptation? 

How have you experienced teaching this to your children so far?

If you’re studying with us, what challenged you this week? 

4 thoughts on “5 Conversations: Choosing Sides

  1. I loved reading this. . .I need to get this book! SOOO good to have tools as a parent wondering how do I share things with my son, what a wonderful resource and share on this subject. GOOD advice!

  2. suz…i also am overwhelmed by the hugeness of our job in helping our kids make godly choices for their lives. but i am praying and trusting that god will help me and todd teach and guide them in the area of temptation and self control. so thankful for the input i’m receiving now while they’re so little.

    so, i really love the show modern family, but todd does not. when he was gone at work, i’d watch it on hulu. well, one night when he was home piddling around the house, i sat down to watch an episode on the computer. i wasn’t trying to hide it…but when he saw it on, he was not happy with me at all and asked that it never be on in our household. while i agree with some of his reasons for not watching, the rebellious side of me was saying, “i’m an adult…you can’t tell me what to watch!” but my husband seeks God and relies on Him to help lead and make the best choices for our house…and that convicts me. so i submit…

    he’s still working 48 hour shifts and there’s plenty of opportunity to watch a show that i think is hilarious. just the other night it came on and i started to watch the opening scene and was convicted. i know it’s such a silly example, but i can’t help but think that one day my boys might be confronted with a similar tempting situation involving porn or other things we don’t want them involved in. i want to be able to tell them that even at my age, i’m faced with temptation. but when i choose to have self control, then i don’t have to go down that road of a guilty conscience or keeping a secret or having my husband be angry with me. i can go on with a peaceful heart knowing that i obeyed and pleased God instead. i want to “abstain from sinful desires, which war against my soul.”

    • Sus, It’s so funny because I’ve actually had a conversation with Todd about the show too 🙂 I love the story though and admire how you’ve struggled with it. It’s good to keep in mind that as we set standards for our kids, we remember they will be tempted even as we are as adults. And we serve this Jesus who “in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin” and he is able to help us and show us the way out(Hebrews 2:17-18) every time. We can use our own experiences to relate and not jump and freak out when our kids are faced – and even give in to temptation. Gosh I hope I can live that out as the temptations get bigger. What do I know… my oldest kid is 10 🙂 Love you and love being in this with you.

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