Six {31 Days of Wisdom}

This month I’m spending 31 days writing and reflecting on wisdom found in the Proverbs.  This is part of the 31 Days of Change blog link up started by The Nester. I confess, it was hard to get going today.  But the purpose is change… that comes with discipline and building a new habit.  I choose wisdom and pray it gets ingrained in my soul. If you’re reading along, I’m praying the same for you as we go.

“My son, keep your father’s command
and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.
Bind them always on your heart;
fasten them around your neck.
When you walk, they will guide you;
when you sleep, they will watch over you;
when you awake, they will speak to you.
For this command is a lamp,
    this teaching is a light,
and correction and instruction
are the way to life…”

The father’s command and the mother’s teaching.

The command is a lamp and the teaching a light.

They are inseparable in their purpose. 


I interrupt the one who is sitting near me reading:

Son, what do you think the difference is between a lamp and it’s light?

The lamp is the structure, the light is the electricity.

Together, they light the way.

I doubt the writer meant mom is electricity and dad is the lamp.  He is explaining to his son the command is followed with a teaching and the message is consistent from both parents. Consistently working together, lamp and light are joined together to light the path for the sons and daughters of wisdom. The persistent message enables his son to write it on his heart and wear it around his neck.  Remember a time as an adult when you were caught in some precarious situation and you heard the voice of your parent, distantly ringing in your ear?

I recall one night as a college freshman walking alone at night in Azusa.  The darkness was haunting and I thought to myself, This is why my parents never let me go anywhere alone.

There is safety to be found in wisdom.

The worst times in parenting are when we are on different pages.  The light isn’t as brilliant when it doesn’t shine from the lamp.  I have many friends who are a single moms and I marvel at the grace given to them for the job at hand.  They are both lamp and light.

I often take for granted the fact there are two of us but when the two are not one the wreckage is in plain sight.

Recently I was talking with a friend about leadership development and the difference it makes when you like those you lead with.  When you like those you lead with, you laugh together, have fun together and head down the same path. When {not if} problems come, you defer to one another with understanding and compassion, believing the best about each other. People want to follow leaders who have electricity together.

Parenting in marriage requires the marriage to be strengthened.

If you’re reading this and you’re married with kids, will you please pray with me?

Lord, help us to look to you first and foremost above anything else in this world.  Help us to put our marriages second and prioritizing our spouses before all else {forsaking all others}.  Turn our hearts toward one another so our kids can find safety and that a united front would be so much more than just a front but a place of refuge and safety to grow. Amen

How do you find it challenging to prioritize your marriage before your parenting?

Have you noticed a difference when you do?

This is the 6th post in a 31 Day series: Wisdom. Start from the beginning here

You can also find over 1000 other topics from bloggers also participating here.

One thought on “Six {31 Days of Wisdom}

  1. You should turn this into a little devotional book!! Xo Jess

    From: Hemmed In Reply-To: Hemmed In Date: Sat, 6 Oct 2012 23:05:30 +0000 To: Jessica Patay Subject: [New post] Six {31 Days of Wisdom} Suzie Lind posted: “This month I’m spending 31 days writing and reflecting on wisdom found in the Proverbs. This is part of the 31 Days of Change blog link up started by The Nester. I confess, it was hard to get going today. But the purpose is change… that comes with d”

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