An old song, but the lyrics are attempting to state the truth that marriage is about two elements working together to make something beautiful.
Ephesians 5:21 prepares us for teaching on marriage by saying:
“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”
Two people, preferring one another, working towards each other because of Jesus. Is there a better motivation?
Proverbs 27:15 and 16 warns us however:
“A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike; to restrain her is to restrain the wind or to grasp oil in one’s right hand.”
Drip. Drip. Drip.
There is a strong word to women hear about being someone who argues, comes against, nags, complains…all without restraint. But it also speaks to the truth that marriage is a mutually formative relationship. It was designed to make two people work together towards something intended to bring glory to God. Easier said than done.
As women, we need to heed to the power acknowledged in these words that our quarrelsome behavior can be impossible to restrain if we are not careful. And if it’s continuous we will be annoying at best… but worse…detestable and undesirable to be around.
God gives women a unique perspective, sense of wisdom and common sense and that wisdom needs to be fed and nurtured by the Creator of it. It is good for us to speak up and speak into the lives of others, especially our husbands and into our marriages. But if we are not careful about how we use our words and the respectfulness of our words we will become slippery like oil and nothing we do or say will stick.
From one to another, let’s move forward today with restraint and be careful to wait until what we have to say is fitly spoken.
Don’t be a drip.